Lafanga

I was on my cycle. This girl came out from the hostel and going towards this eatery.I did something which I never ever thought I would do. I started following the girl. It was clear she knew someone was following her. She slowed down, I slowed down but kept on following. On reaching closer I whistled loud enough to be heard by her.She was about to get her slippers and hit me when I started laughing loudly.For an instant she was amazed and the next time she was also laughing. "Joy I will kill you" thats what Sumi said to me.

A jump into the Unknown

Today is my last day at a company where I have been for the last three years. Getting into this company was a suggestion of my wife and may be leaving this company is also a suggestion from her. I am jumping into a wormhole not knowing where will it lead to. All I know now is that probably my wife would have agreed to my step in parts. 2 months ago I didn't have any motivation to carry on but now at least I have something - to fulfill my wife's wishes whatever is possible. "Dear I know what you wanted and I will try to achieve all that".

Sumi4Joy:Messenger

Ask any one in IIT which is the single most important medium acting as a cupid there, the answer will come as “The Messenger” be it Yahoo Messenger or its later substitute GTalk. With net connection in every room, guys and gals could chat as long as they want which ended up both making and breaking their relation.Though we stayed at the same campus, our relationship also flourished because of the continuous talk we could do through the messengers.

One day after the practice she asked me for my yahoo id. The reason which she gave me for this action afterwards was that since I was her department senior she could get a lot of funda from me. I readily agreed. Saying no to a girl asking for your ID, it’s a crime in KGP. The next day she added me and promptly came the first message “Today you were at the Coffee Stall naa”. I felt sp excited, “Wow this girl is noticing me”.

The very first day I did something which every senior does in KGP to every junior and especially to facchis. In Bengali societies there is a tradition that seniors are called by their name with “da” added at the end. For those who don’t know “da” means big brother in Bengali. So I was Joydeepda for every junior there. However she calling me “da” not acceptable at all. I made it a point to her not to call me by that name, at least in private, and asked her to call me just Joy. This is how I became her “Joy” as everyone of you may have heard “Mera Joy ……” . This is the same word I will always yearn to hear from her now.

Sumi4Joy:How to impress a girl

This is no love tip as it may seem from the topic. This worked with Sumi and probably it would have worked only on her.

One day after a practice session, I was sitting alone with my flute. Actually this is what I always used to do. As I said I was a Bengali only by mother tongue, I used to find it difficult to mingle with the group there. Half of their words used to zip past my head. So go there do your work that’s it. I was checking out something when she came and asked “How does this flute work? Is it difficult to play?” Hmm this girl seems to be interested or does she just want to start a conversation. Anyways I was getting a chance to talk to a girl in IIT KGP(a desert in terms of the ratio)and that was enough for me. I said “No not much. With practice one can get to play it”. Came another question, actually she liked to talk and what best way to do so than by asking questions.”Can you only play sad tunes on flute”. Hey what’s this. Just because the script demanded a sad tune, I am being turned into a sadist. I promptly showed what else I can do. From tunes to depict peace, hurry, laughter, at least that’s the explanation I gave for my tunes, I played them all to convince her that I know much more. She seemed to be satisfied and I thought I just conquered a fort.

In the initial days of our courtship I used to think this was the very incident that impressed her. However, as expected of me, I was wrong. Actually she was impressed by me because of a totally different and unimaginable incident. One day we had to make some changes in the script and were being dictated in Bengali. With my expertise in the language, I wrote the changes in Hindi pronouncing the Bengali letters. Even though I was careful enough, someone from the team saw this and announced it to the world present there. This caught her attention as she said it later when we were a couple. She was also a NRB(Non Residential Bong) like me and she felt connected at that moment. She also always felt it awkward among those people. I had impressed a girl without even knowing that and by one of the stupidest things one can do.

Sumi4Joy: The first real meeting

"Joydeep we are doing a play for Open IIT. We need someone on flute for the music section. Can you be there?" . These were the words from one of the best seniors of our hall. Such great person asking me for something, how can I say no to him. This was the moment I was waiting for. After 1.5 years of practicing hard , I finally get a call for the only talent which I think I had "Playing Flute".

I reached the place on time and was excited for my first brush with Extra Curricular in KGP. The first thing that came to my mind on seeing the people there was Ohh I know this girl. Where did I see her? Yes , she is from my department, facchi.

There were four, five people and they were dancing to some Bengali tune.This was supposedly some warm up for them. I will say though I am a Bengali , but that is limited to only speaking the language. I didnt follow anything of the song except the tune . This I owned to my learning of Flute.

I just sat at some corner and kept on observing them.After their dance was over, I was introduced to the group and promptly came a question in girlish voice, "You are from Maths Departments naa?". Ohh! she recognized me too.Yaa why not after how I ordered her to give bouquets during our first meet, on Teachers Day 5th Sepetember, 2003, she would definitely do.

This was the first time I had a proper meeting with my Sumi. At that time I never thought that this girl will come in my life filling it with joy and will leave my life filling it with sorrow.

The First Kiss

After much thinking I have finally decided to write about My First Kiss. Why to share it?? At first I thought its something very personal but then its so innocent and pure so why not.Specially if you have a couple of friends who almost came to the verge of experiencing it and one who even went through it , though just for the sake of a bet(which he claims).I feel they will understand the feelings associated with it and who knows get inspired by it.So here it goes.
It was the first dinner with my girlfriend after I proposed to her. For the first time we sat side by side on the dinner table.Lord only knows how much I wanted to do this even before proposing. She was looking so pretty in her pink top that I could not stop myself keep on looking at her.The only diversion that I had was a butterfly on her dress which was placed exactly at the position where I thought I was now, that is her heart.Time seemed to to pass by so fast but being the first evening together as officially girlfriend boyfriend how could it end in with just the dinner.Also I needed to give her something, my first gift to her, a beautiful,soft smelling love letter pad.I thought we would need it a lot once we wont be together.
So after the dinner we went for a stroll and luckily found a place to sit.Luckier , it was a place where not many people passed by.And then I did something which I have always thought of doing.Not kiss yaar! I went on my knees took out the gift wrapped nicely in paper,giving it to her I proposed her again.Oh god I have been dying to do this. Ever since I have thought of proposing I have always thought of doing it like this.And guess what she accepted it with a bit of shyness. I thought was it all for me and wont I get anything in return?As soon as she knew that I wanted something in return, I got my first kiss.Though a peck on my cheeks but it was my first kiss.Ya totally unexpected as I just wanted her to say I LOVE YOU.It was not that I didn't want her to kiss me but knowing the girl she was it was too much of an ask from her.Though it was only the next day that I came to know that she thought I wanted a kiss from her so she did it,I am lucky she thought so.But still sometimes things which you get totally out of the blue are the ones that make you happy the most.And I was happy, though a bit surprised but still I was happy.
However things don't stop here.There is another part of this experience , a more funny one.But I think its enough for one day.Part two will come in the the sequel to this one.

The First Step

This is my first attempt at this form of writing.I must admit that its the result of a beautiful blog written by my dear friend Bhavesh(http://tanabana.blogspot.com).
Its difficult to find what to write on cause there are so many things to write about.At first I though of writing about people and with the first person who came to my mind comes my topic.
Its a feeling , a feeling from within and its so strange.
This feeling brings happiness and this feeling brings sadness.
This feeling brings a sense of achievement and loss too with itself.
This feeling gives strength and sometimes make you helpless.
This feeling makes you feel on top of the sky as well as at the bottom of the ocean.
Such is the strength of it that it can give life or even take it away.
I am sure all of you have felt it sometime or other.
Even I feel it.